We've all got our quirks. But sometimes I get the feeling that I am not like most girls. Or at least the version we're all fed in movies, TV shows, etc. I'm talking about that jealous, crazybitch type girlfriend, who tends to make a guy's existence a living hell, i.e. all about her. Or maybe I'm just realistic and have really low expectations of men.
But, I was thinking about dating and boyfriends and stuff girls get all mad about for no reason today. Sometimes I think guys are used to dating girls who think that relationships equal enslavement, or, worse, codependency. Like they expect us all to be crazy. So I am clearing up any misconceptions. I am not one of those girls. So, please enjoy the following normal-girl qualities I possess, which I will direct at the collective male readers of this blog:
1. I do not care if you make plans with your friends and don't invite me. Do I need to hear about the chicks they are banging? Pretend I'm interested while you guys talk about the Lakers? Spare me. Plus, bringing your girlfriend when you're meeting the guys for drinks makes you both a douchebag and a pussy. I want no part in that.
2. It's totally more than okay if you go out with the guys and then come over to my place late at night afterward. I don't need to hang out with your friends. Or get all dressed up and go out. The only part about going out that I really like anyway is getting in bed, with you, at the end of it.
3. I do not care if you go to dinner with your female friends. I get that they are you friends. That is why you are dating me and not them. (Clearly, if you spend more time with your female friends than me, that's a problem. But come on, I'm not that insecure.)
4. It's okay if you want to chill at home by yourself. I like doing this too. I have a life. I appreciate that you have one too.
5. I don't expect to talk on the phone every night. (Though, in contrast, it would be nice to sleep over every night if we're doing more than just sleeping, if you catch my drift.)
Really, the only thing I need to feel happy and secure in a relationship is for the guy I'm with to tell me, even just once in a while, that he's happy, that he likes spending time with me, and that I'm amazing. I assume he already thinks these things if we're in a relationship, but sometimes a gal's gotta be reminded. I don't think that's too much to ask.
My Body is a Temple of Sugar
I need to seriously reconsider my eating habits.
Waking up this morning, I could swear I'd spent the previous night drinking like a champ. I must have also engaged in some sort of acrobatic behavior. A dull pain snarled through my low back. My head pounded. I hit the snooze at 7:30, 7:40 and 7:50 and reluctantly pushed the covers over at 8, my eyes convinced I was still sleeping.
I retraced the previous day: Interview for new TV website job (score!), transcribing said interview, office hours on campus, class, movie with JT, coffee shop to do some writing, in bed to do more writing, lights out at 1 a.m., asleep by 1:45? Nothing too crazy. Certainly nothing worthy of feeling like a truck sloshed over me during the night.
Then, I considered my food intake. It wasn't pretty:
Breakfast: Cereal and large cup of coffee
Snack: Chocolate croissant and large cup of coffee
Another snack: Chex Mix, root beer
Yet another snack (or could be considered dinner): Movie popcorn, fruit snacks, Hi-C punch (oh yeah, I got the Kids' Pack)
Oh, right, another snack, at midnight: Two Saltines, string cheese, left-over chicken tender, apple, cup of Lady Gray Tea
Huh.
Ok, what about Sunday? Surely I ate well that day. Nope: toast with butter, three pieces of bacon, hash browns, Starbucks' Mocha, Rice-Krispie Treat, See's Candies lollipop, bowl of pasta with vegetables (ok, that was good, I guess), two mini-packs of Sweet-Tarts.
Huh.
As I write this, I am still tired, downing a large cup of coffee before I run to teach. I've had an English Muffin with peanut butter and jelly and a mini-pack of trail mix. But, considering a bunch of us are going to Happy Hour before watching David Sedaris at Bovard tonight, I can tell these steps in the right direction are pretty much meaningless. It's not like I want to get fat. It's not like I don't know the way I eat makes me tired and crabby. I just can't stop eating crappy food. When I went to reach for the croissant yesterday, I knew I shouldn't do it. I knew it would only contribute to the small pooch just under my belly-button. I knew I'd regret it. But the little peak of chocolate ebbing through the flaky crust was too powerful for rationale to hold fast.
I'm thinking about cutting sweets and food-that's-bad-for-me cold turkey but I know I won't be able to do it. Deprivation only breeds cravings and I always listen to cravings. But maybe I can just be more aware? I forgot about those Sweet-Tarts on Sunday til I wrote them down. And two sodas yesterday?! Lifetime first!
I shall channel healthy. Or pretend I am in a spa. I never want to eat badly when I go to a spa. Maybe I need to slice up some cucumbers and put them in water or something. Very refreshing. Would go well with a croissant, don't you think?
Changes
The nature of ex-boyfriends, I've found, is that they always become the men you wished they were when you were together after you've broken up. This theory is scientific in that I have witnessed this transformative phenomenon in two of my exes. (And from talking to Krissy last night, she has as well, so that's three.)
Being the idiot I am, I decided to look at a recent photo of my ex on Facebook. We actually talked for the first time in about four months yesterday, which was oddly amazing to the extent that I neither hated him nor wanted to get back together with him over the course of our 50 minute chat. Because we'd been together for so long, it's almost impossible to not enjoy talking to him. There are probably six people in the world who know me best and he is one of them. Plus, I had so many things to tell him. Did he see that movie I saw? Did he like it too? What did he think about John Madden retiring? And so on...
Anyway, I found out during our phone call yesterday that things have been going great for him professionally, which was one of the issues we'd had (he was lazy/I was sick of him complaining his career wasn't going anywhere). He revealed that, now, he doesn't typically leave work til 10 p.m. and I am genuinely proud of him for getting his butt in gear. I truly believe this would not have happened if we'd stayed together. (Or at least, I can tell myself this to feel better about breaking up with him.)
But, while he also mentioned he was running daily and eating right, the ex neglected to mention that he is now the possessor of what some may call a pretty hot bod. I mean, like pectorals and abs hot bod. Like biceps. Of course, he is/was always a good looking guy, but never that cut. And not that I'm a huge fan of muscular guys. But I certainly would not have been complaining if he'd looked like that when we were together.
It's not like I'm regretting breaking up or anything, I just think it's an odd quality of breaking up that pushes men to become what you wanted them to be in the first place. In this case, successful and muscular. My high school boyfriend kinda did the same thing. We used to fight about me joining a sorority and drinking in college, which sparked our demise because the issues could not be resolved (he was adamantly against the Greek system and didn't drink). Sure enough, three months after we were kaput he joined a frat and perpetually got wasted with his new 'bros.'
I'm sure I've changed too, in fact I know I have. I don't nag anymore. I don't need constant reassurance that I can actually write. I don't complain as much about stuff that doesn't matter. I'm less uptight. Maybe it just takes getting out of a situation that's too comfortable or no longer symbiotic to push us into being the people we truly want to be, or just simply better people. Not that my ex and I were bad for each other, but I do think we were holding each other back, at least in some ways.
Now we get to be who we want ourselves to be, without lingering expectations. I know I am much happier post-break-up, and I am pretty sure he is too. Which is extremely comforting. And makes me feel a whole heck of a lot less guilty.
Being the idiot I am, I decided to look at a recent photo of my ex on Facebook. We actually talked for the first time in about four months yesterday, which was oddly amazing to the extent that I neither hated him nor wanted to get back together with him over the course of our 50 minute chat. Because we'd been together for so long, it's almost impossible to not enjoy talking to him. There are probably six people in the world who know me best and he is one of them. Plus, I had so many things to tell him. Did he see that movie I saw? Did he like it too? What did he think about John Madden retiring? And so on...
Anyway, I found out during our phone call yesterday that things have been going great for him professionally, which was one of the issues we'd had (he was lazy/I was sick of him complaining his career wasn't going anywhere). He revealed that, now, he doesn't typically leave work til 10 p.m. and I am genuinely proud of him for getting his butt in gear. I truly believe this would not have happened if we'd stayed together. (Or at least, I can tell myself this to feel better about breaking up with him.)
But, while he also mentioned he was running daily and eating right, the ex neglected to mention that he is now the possessor of what some may call a pretty hot bod. I mean, like pectorals and abs hot bod. Like biceps. Of course, he is/was always a good looking guy, but never that cut. And not that I'm a huge fan of muscular guys. But I certainly would not have been complaining if he'd looked like that when we were together.
It's not like I'm regretting breaking up or anything, I just think it's an odd quality of breaking up that pushes men to become what you wanted them to be in the first place. In this case, successful and muscular. My high school boyfriend kinda did the same thing. We used to fight about me joining a sorority and drinking in college, which sparked our demise because the issues could not be resolved (he was adamantly against the Greek system and didn't drink). Sure enough, three months after we were kaput he joined a frat and perpetually got wasted with his new 'bros.'
I'm sure I've changed too, in fact I know I have. I don't nag anymore. I don't need constant reassurance that I can actually write. I don't complain as much about stuff that doesn't matter. I'm less uptight. Maybe it just takes getting out of a situation that's too comfortable or no longer symbiotic to push us into being the people we truly want to be, or just simply better people. Not that my ex and I were bad for each other, but I do think we were holding each other back, at least in some ways.
Now we get to be who we want ourselves to be, without lingering expectations. I know I am much happier post-break-up, and I am pretty sure he is too. Which is extremely comforting. And makes me feel a whole heck of a lot less guilty.
...Dunn-da-Dunn-Dunn-DUNN!
Okay Guys. So. This weekend I'm going to the L.A. Times Festival of Books and my amazing memoir teacher Dinah Lenney is sitting on a panel with none other than Samantha Dunn. I know. I. Know. This is almost Britney-serious.
Oh, wait, you don't know of this Samantha Dunn? Let me explain. Ms. Dunn is both a fiction writer and memoirist, totally hot, and cool, but self-deprecating so you know she's down-to-earth. She describes herself as a "guy's gal," a "tell-her-your-problems, gee-you're-a-great-pal-and-it's-just-a-bonus-that-you've-got-big-boobs, let's-watch-the-Tyson-fight-on-pay-per-view kind of woman." She talks about her tactic of "strategic perfume placement" as one of the getting-ready steps before a date. Her MySpace page quote is Mae West's adage: "Those who are easily shocked should be shocked more often."
Needless to say, I love this woman. I believe that we would get along famously, swimmingly, amazingly, as in I feel like, when I read her work, that she is reciting to me my own thoughts.
Which reminds me, Sam Dunn wrote some great books, which is why I get to *maybe* actually talk with her this weekend. She wrote a fantastic memoir called Faith in Carlos Gomez: A Memoir of Salsa, Sex, and Salvation, which made me laugh out loud many, many times in public places, as well as Not by Accident: Reconstructing a Careless Life, and the exquisite novel Failing Paris. Oh, and she's also written for the Los Angeles Times, O (Oprah's mag), Ms., and Glamour. If there was a person whose career I would want to follow, exactly, it would be hers.
What does one say to such a cool individual such as Samantha Dunn? Here are some choices:
Regretfully polite: Hi, I'm Natasha and [mumbles inarticulately about Faith in Carlos Gomez and how it changed my life]. Nicetomeetyou! [runs away]
Professional: Hello, my name is Natasha Burton and I am getting my Master's in Professional Writing at USC, concentrating in non-fiction. I quite enjoy your mastery of vivid imagery in your fiction, as well as your candid reflection in your memoirs. Barf.
Hard-to-get: Say nothing. But look intently at her as she talks on the panel so she will spot me as an active listener and look at me often.
Over-the-top: OH MY GODDDDDD. I LOVE YOU. PLEASE ADOPT MEEEEEE. SERIOUSLY. LIKE YOU AND I ARE LIKE THE SAME. PERSON. SOMETIMES WHEN I'M WITH A GUY, I FEEL LIKE THE SAME WAY YOU DID WITH THE STABLE DUDE. I HATE THAT GUY. YOU ARE WAAAAY TOO GOOD FOR HIM. AND I'M ALSO REALLY CLUMSY. LIKE REALLY. I EMBARRASS MYSELF IN PUBLIC ALL THE TIME. YOU KNOW IN DIRTY DANCING WHERE SHE SAYS SHE 'CARRIED A WATERMELON'? I LIKE SAY THAT PHRASE ALL THE TIME AS LIKE AN ANNOUNCEMENT OF MY EMBARRASSMENT.
Brave: Hey Sam, I'm Natasha. We have a couple mutual friends who think we would get along, so sweet of them to say. Dinah recommended I read your book because my writing style is somewhat similar, though clearly not as expert as yours. Want to grab coffee with me sometime? And tell me all your secrets?
Oh, wait, you don't know of this Samantha Dunn? Let me explain. Ms. Dunn is both a fiction writer and memoirist, totally hot, and cool, but self-deprecating so you know she's down-to-earth. She describes herself as a "guy's gal," a "tell-her-your-problems, gee-you're-a-great-pal-and-it's-just-a-bonus-that-you've-got-big-boobs, let's-watch-the-Tyson-fight-on-pay-per-view kind of woman." She talks about her tactic of "strategic perfume placement" as one of the getting-ready steps before a date. Her MySpace page quote is Mae West's adage: "Those who are easily shocked should be shocked more often."
Needless to say, I love this woman. I believe that we would get along famously, swimmingly, amazingly, as in I feel like, when I read her work, that she is reciting to me my own thoughts.
Which reminds me, Sam Dunn wrote some great books, which is why I get to *maybe* actually talk with her this weekend. She wrote a fantastic memoir called Faith in Carlos Gomez: A Memoir of Salsa, Sex, and Salvation, which made me laugh out loud many, many times in public places, as well as Not by Accident: Reconstructing a Careless Life, and the exquisite novel Failing Paris. Oh, and she's also written for the Los Angeles Times, O (Oprah's mag), Ms., and Glamour. If there was a person whose career I would want to follow, exactly, it would be hers.
What does one say to such a cool individual such as Samantha Dunn? Here are some choices:
Regretfully polite: Hi, I'm Natasha and [mumbles inarticulately about Faith in Carlos Gomez and how it changed my life]. Nicetomeetyou! [runs away]
Professional: Hello, my name is Natasha Burton and I am getting my Master's in Professional Writing at USC, concentrating in non-fiction. I quite enjoy your mastery of vivid imagery in your fiction, as well as your candid reflection in your memoirs. Barf.
Hard-to-get: Say nothing. But look intently at her as she talks on the panel so she will spot me as an active listener and look at me often.
Over-the-top: OH MY GODDDDDD. I LOVE YOU. PLEASE ADOPT MEEEEEE. SERIOUSLY. LIKE YOU AND I ARE LIKE THE SAME. PERSON. SOMETIMES WHEN I'M WITH A GUY, I FEEL LIKE THE SAME WAY YOU DID WITH THE STABLE DUDE. I HATE THAT GUY. YOU ARE WAAAAY TOO GOOD FOR HIM. AND I'M ALSO REALLY CLUMSY. LIKE REALLY. I EMBARRASS MYSELF IN PUBLIC ALL THE TIME. YOU KNOW IN DIRTY DANCING WHERE SHE SAYS SHE 'CARRIED A WATERMELON'? I LIKE SAY THAT PHRASE ALL THE TIME AS LIKE AN ANNOUNCEMENT OF MY EMBARRASSMENT.
Brave: Hey Sam, I'm Natasha. We have a couple mutual friends who think we would get along, so sweet of them to say. Dinah recommended I read your book because my writing style is somewhat similar, though clearly not as expert as yours. Want to grab coffee with me sometime? And tell me all your secrets?
Fear V. Love
I kinda have a thing for this Florentine dude named Niccolo. He hung out with the Medici family during the Italian Renaissance, wrote this little book called The Prince. When I went to Florence two summers ago, I may or may not have teared up while viewing/taking multiple pictures of his tomb in Santa Croce.
The guy was a total pessimist. Here is the quote/tenet he is most known for, the case of Feared vs. Loved:
"It is much more safe to be feared than loved, when you have to choose between the two...for love holds by a bond of obligation which, as mankind is bad, is broken on every occasion whenever it is for the interest of the obliged party to break it."
This is totally the framework for male/female dating relations. Get the other person to think you are so cool and unapproachable that they want you even more. Because if you endear yourself to the person and allow yourself to be loved, that may not last. Love never fails, according to 1 Corinthians 13 (Bible-quotage, what-what!), but fear never dies.
My infatuation with Machiavelli began when I re-read The Prince in college for President Sample's class. I revisited the text some nights ago after thinking about this idea that it would be best to be loved by others, and also intimidate them a little, if you are looking for control over a certain social situation. Like when girls say that they "wear the pants" in a relationship, they typically enjoy being both feared and loved. There is a sense of security in this duality, that your place in a partnership is determined. But, generally when I have been the pants-wearer, I lose interest, so what's more important--even-keeled security or unreliable passion? (Niccolo says we always must chose one thing or the other in most situations, rarely can we have both.) At this point in my life, I would always choose passion over stagnation.
But to get back to fear and love...if you had to choose, as Niccolo stresses, perhaps being a little intimidating is a better life skill than being the type of person everyone likes. I know how terrible this sounds. Especially because I think I would prefer to be loved. But knowing that maybe love won't last, is it worth it to allow yourself to be loved? Or better to protect yourself with an armor that intimidates?
I Ain't Sayin She a Gold-Digger. Oh Wait. Yeah I Am.
As someone writing her Master's thesis on post-college marriage mania (a phrase I made up, thankyouverymuch), I can't help but be attuned to the relationship-status changes on Facebook from "In a Relationship" to "Engaged."
Another young woman in my network recently got herself ringed. Like many of the newly-fianced I see, she is younger than me. (My 10th grade self would not be pleased. A couple weeks ago, I stumbled upon an entry in my diary in which I wrote, to my future self, not to worry about the stupid boy I had a crush on because when I'm twenty-five, "I will have a gorgeous fiance." Nope.)
I've asked the question many times--why are these girls getting married at 23/24/25? (The religious reasons, I understand. I'm talking about the girls who have clearly lost their viriginty some time ago.) I typically look at the gal's photos to get some clues. Sometimes I see vacations to tropical locales. Sometimes there are private planes. Diamonds the size of dimes. Lacoste polos. Lots of Ralph Lauren. The girl is typically gorgeous. The guy is so-so at best. This is where my stomach gets queasy.
These girls are gold-diggers, whether they want to admit it or not.
Call my attitude bitter, bitchy, whatever. But, as someone who has been on the other side, someone who has been called a gold-digger (by her own sorority sisters, mind you), I feel like this is my terrain.
I've done the private plane thing. The VIP, field-access, secret-entrance, back-door, special-pass-only, front-of-the-line, only-this-key-gets-you-in, open-sesame song and dance. It gets old. Saying this isn't a stab at the boyfriend who allowed me to learn this lesson, it's just something I know to be true. Money can't buy me love. When you marry a man for his--or his parents'--money, (and I'm not calling anyone out specifically, just talking about this as an idea), money is what you get. For some people, that's enough.
Private planes don't cultivate passion. Vacation homes don't get me hot. Diamond rings don't give me butterflies. It's only the man himself who can electrify your every cell with one brush of his lips on your collarbone, one word whispered in your ear, one look.
This is one more thing I've learned in my twenty-five years: If I had to choose, I would rather simply screw a guy I was crazy about than be stuck married to a rich dude with the sexual capacity of a snail.
Just sayin.
Still Feministing
In college, I joined an amazing feminist group called VDAY USC, which is part of a global organization started by the incomparable, goddess-like Eve Ensler, who wrote The Vagina Monologues. I became a crazy women's libber pretty much instantly when I became a Vagina Warrior, as we liked to call ourselves. Not to brag, but I yelled at members of the Republican Youth Majority, as well as the freaky Jesus guys touting big signs through campus proclaiming we were all going to burn in Hell's fire, wore a shirt that said, "Eat Out More Often, and broadcasted the word "vagina" in the middle of USC trying to sell tickets for our performances of the monologues.
I felt extremely cool and important, like I was doing something that mattered. And while screaming the word "vagina" probably wasn't going to change the world, I believed the work I, and my fellow warriors, did during those years was very important in raising awareness about violence against women, even just in the immediate campus community. (On that note, I would just like to say, to whoever reads this thing, but more to my Vagina Warriors, the experiences I had with VDAY were by far the most enriching of my USC career. I think about you, very fondly, very often.)
Anyway, to stop reminiscing and get to my point, because I will never shed that part of me who spoke my mind about women's issues to whoever would listen (and, let's be honest, coerced those who wouldn't), I want to bring attention to the current situation in Afghanistan. Basically, a law was passed that requires women to have sex with their husbands at least every four days, unless they have some kind of medical issue that would prevent them from doing so, which condones, and in fact encourages, marital rape. This is exactly the type of legislation that provoked Eve Ensler to write The Vagina Monologues (and after, The Good Body) and to turn her desire to end violence against women into a global organization.
And not only did the law pass, but the women protesting its passage are being pelted with rocks and disrespected with slurs by both men and women. The whole situation is disgusting on so many levels. I urge you all to read this story about the situation and to log onto VDAY's website to learn more about what you can do to make the world a safer, healthier place for women to grow and thrive.
If anything, this story is a reminder to me that while I may not be a practicing Vagina Warrior, I need to actively participate in the fight to end this type of heinous disrespect, violence, and disregard towards women. The fight is far from over.
I felt extremely cool and important, like I was doing something that mattered. And while screaming the word "vagina" probably wasn't going to change the world, I believed the work I, and my fellow warriors, did during those years was very important in raising awareness about violence against women, even just in the immediate campus community. (On that note, I would just like to say, to whoever reads this thing, but more to my Vagina Warriors, the experiences I had with VDAY were by far the most enriching of my USC career. I think about you, very fondly, very often.)
Anyway, to stop reminiscing and get to my point, because I will never shed that part of me who spoke my mind about women's issues to whoever would listen (and, let's be honest, coerced those who wouldn't), I want to bring attention to the current situation in Afghanistan. Basically, a law was passed that requires women to have sex with their husbands at least every four days, unless they have some kind of medical issue that would prevent them from doing so, which condones, and in fact encourages, marital rape. This is exactly the type of legislation that provoked Eve Ensler to write The Vagina Monologues (and after, The Good Body) and to turn her desire to end violence against women into a global organization.
And not only did the law pass, but the women protesting its passage are being pelted with rocks and disrespected with slurs by both men and women. The whole situation is disgusting on so many levels. I urge you all to read this story about the situation and to log onto VDAY's website to learn more about what you can do to make the world a safer, healthier place for women to grow and thrive.
If anything, this story is a reminder to me that while I may not be a practicing Vagina Warrior, I need to actively participate in the fight to end this type of heinous disrespect, violence, and disregard towards women. The fight is far from over.
An Open Letter
Dear [insert name of guy I have dated/am dating/will date],
How are you? Hope you're doing well. I'm pretty good myself. Doing a little blogging, a little teaching, finishing grad school.
Anyway. The reason I am writing to you is to apologize. I have this new blog called The Little Black Blog of Big Red Flags, and you're probably going to be written about at some point. If I haven't written about you already. You may or may not be comfortable with this, which is why I am saying sorry preemptively.
But before you click the link and try to figure out which of the nearly 50 posts are about you, let me just say this: I am not writing about you out of spite, anger, or vindication. You are a great guy in many ways. In some other ways, you are not so great, just like everyone else.
In fact, I thought I would take this opportunity to list some reasons why I am not so great, just to make you feel better:
1. Sometimes when we talk on the phone I will tell you to hold on while I have a full conversation with my roommate and laugh with her about some inside joke, while you wait for us to finish, which I'm sure is really annoying.
2. I read into everything you do way too much.
3. I joke around a lot, and will poke fun at you, which apparently comes off to some as passive aggressive but really isn't. I just think I'm funnier than I am.
4. If you so much as look at another girl, not to mention talk to her, joke with her, or touch her in any way, I will assume you: a) Want to sleep with her or b) Already have. I won't say anything to you about this, I will just be kinda bitchy for a minute. (And, yes, that is passive aggressive.)
5. I let my dog kiss my on the mouth. And drink from my water glass.
And those are just from the top of my head. The point is, I have this blog, and you're going to be on it, so please don't be mad at me. Really, the blog isn't even about you. It's about women coming together to commiserate about the stupid things you guys do to us (like, maybe don't do those things and blogs like this wouldn't have to exist). It's about me wanting to get a book deal and make lots and lots of money.
I mean, hey, feel free to start a blog of your own. You can even use my five flags above to get you started.
lots of love,
Natasha
How are you? Hope you're doing well. I'm pretty good myself. Doing a little blogging, a little teaching, finishing grad school.
Anyway. The reason I am writing to you is to apologize. I have this new blog called The Little Black Blog of Big Red Flags, and you're probably going to be written about at some point. If I haven't written about you already. You may or may not be comfortable with this, which is why I am saying sorry preemptively.
But before you click the link and try to figure out which of the nearly 50 posts are about you, let me just say this: I am not writing about you out of spite, anger, or vindication. You are a great guy in many ways. In some other ways, you are not so great, just like everyone else.
In fact, I thought I would take this opportunity to list some reasons why I am not so great, just to make you feel better:
1. Sometimes when we talk on the phone I will tell you to hold on while I have a full conversation with my roommate and laugh with her about some inside joke, while you wait for us to finish, which I'm sure is really annoying.
2. I read into everything you do way too much.
3. I joke around a lot, and will poke fun at you, which apparently comes off to some as passive aggressive but really isn't. I just think I'm funnier than I am.
4. If you so much as look at another girl, not to mention talk to her, joke with her, or touch her in any way, I will assume you: a) Want to sleep with her or b) Already have. I won't say anything to you about this, I will just be kinda bitchy for a minute. (And, yes, that is passive aggressive.)
5. I let my dog kiss my on the mouth. And drink from my water glass.
And those are just from the top of my head. The point is, I have this blog, and you're going to be on it, so please don't be mad at me. Really, the blog isn't even about you. It's about women coming together to commiserate about the stupid things you guys do to us (like, maybe don't do those things and blogs like this wouldn't have to exist). It's about me wanting to get a book deal and make lots and lots of money.
I mean, hey, feel free to start a blog of your own. You can even use my five flags above to get you started.
lots of love,
Natasha
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